My First Junior League Charm

I was so overjoyed to receive my first JLR charm. It is a symbol of my pride and commitment to the League among other things. Little signs of appreciation go a long way.


This last Wednesday, my volunteer organization, Junior League of Riverside (JLR), had our Annual Meeting. This is my first with the organization, I have been with them for a few months and I have loved every minute of it so far. I have been able to be myself, giving unsolicited advice and ideas, getting involved in newsletters and social media, being a leader in an appropriate way, and having a Book Club (!!!!!).

Now, I have been a part of many organized things, such as sports teams, rec groups, Little League, and others. However, I have never been a part of a group where the members openly welcomed and accepted me. I have always had one or two friends in the group with other organized activities, but with JLR, I feel like I am valued and truly a part of something great.


So, this last week, I attended the Annual Meeting. I knew that they were collecting orders and money for the JLR charm (for a necklace or bracelet) at the same time. Because of my current financial situation, the charm was outside of my reach and I was actually sad about that. I had been a little envious of the ladies who would show up to meetings wearing their charms – I wanted one. I wanted to be able to wear my charm with pride as well. But, I understood why I couldn’t do it now and I just reminded myself that soon I would be able to purchase my own.

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Myself and other JLR members at the Annual Meeting

Well, at the meeting, which was beautiful, they called up all of the new members one-by-one and presented us all with a square box. Inside was my very own charm from the jeweler. Now, none of the ladies knew how much that meant to me because I held it in (well, they do now if they read this), but I can tell you that I cried when I got home and took it out of the package. I was so happy that I had my very own that I get to now wear with pride.

My point with this story is to share how important and meaningful some of the simplest things can be. My charm means something to me. Its representative of my first commitment to a volunteer organization outside of the ones my parents have been involved with. The things I do for or with the League are all my own, based on my abilities and my commitment. But the best part is that I am developing relationships with women I really like. They, like me, are choosing to commit to the organization because they also love it and what we do. I am with a group of like minded women who want to better our communities and ourselves. My charm represents all of that and it is a charm I will cherish forever.

My new charm!

If you are local and want to check JLR out, let me know! If you are not and want to see about Leagues in your area, visit:

Favorite Summer Necklaces

My Favorite Summer Necklaces feature color, design and versatility. These styles are totally on-trend and will make you the envy of the summer BBQ!

I am a HUGE jewelry lover. I singlehandedly probably own more jewelry than you and your mother do. It is something I collect, I cherish, and I plan on sharing with my daughters and grand daughters someday. My favorite part about jewelry is that even though seasons and trends change, the jewelry you wear is always relevant. It allows you to showcase your personality and your likes. Simply put, I believe the jewelry you wear is representative of you!

I wanted to share some of my favorite pieces for the summer. There is also links for where to purchase them (click on the caption!).

  1. The head-Turning OMG Necklace
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Peacock Plumes Statement Necklace

This necklace is super beautiful! Totally in trend for summer with the turquoise color, but also perfect for fall with the dark green and light browns also found in it. The peacock design is reminiscent of loyalty, timelessness and beauty to me and I just love how well it goes with everything! It pops with a black, navy or brown solid top and brings a freshness to a white blouse.


This necklace is the product of the company I represent, Chloe + Isabel, so I can attest to the quality and beauty of the piece.

2. The Not-So-Simple Long Necklace

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Zayne Long Necklace

Give me a long necklace any day of the week and I will be a happy camper. They are so easy to put on and in a beautiful ivory stone, a no brainer!


I love Kendra Scott pieces because they are excellent quality, real stones and look beautiful. The best part of many of the pieces is the adjustable length that allows for decoration down your back too.

I am picturing this necklace in the rose colored metal because I love rose gold, but it also comes in silver and gold metals.


3. The Sliding Classic

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Sliding Ring Bolo Necklace

This necklace is so easy to wear! The O slides on the chains to be shorter or longer. It also has a lobster clasp in back to that is=t can be even longer or a bit shorter. The dangling chain is on trend, but the classic brushed gold look is minimalist and classic.


I will admit, when I saw this necklace in store, I picked it up right away. I knew I needed to have it and I have been so thankful I purchased it since! The chain is smooth and delicate but great quality. No way will it break on you. Plus, it is Madewell, so you know it is made well.


4. The Colorful Statement Necklace

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Golden Lotus Necklace

This necklace captured my heart because of the unique look and detail. Plus, it has colors that I love! I like the fact that the cord is silk and not metal, allows it to be light and comfortable on hot days.


This is another piece from Chloe + Isabel (I know! But I really love the summer pieces! They are so unique!). The metal has some movement so that the necklace moves with you. I just love the lotus design on this necklace.  It just makes me feel so relaxed and at peace while the colors make me happy!

5. The Metal Statement

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Georgina Gold Fringe Necklace

I am a wholehearted believer that every woman should have that one necklace that she can throw on with her leather jacket and band tee that makes her feel bad ass. This necklace is that for me.


This one is also adjustable so it can be longer and more casual, or worn near the neck for a real statement maker. The tassel design is on-trend but the classic style makes it a timeless piece.

Done in a gold metal, this piece will be perfect in any season and you will find yourself reaching for it more often than you anticipate. Kendra Scott sure knows how to design a kick ass necklace!

Visit the links and shop around! You can say so much with the jewelry you wear. And the bet part? It always fits, no matter what size, shape or weight you are! The jewelry you buy today will be the jewelry you wear for the next 10, 15, 20+ years.

Leave a comment and let me know what you love, hate or want more of!


Acceptance: Because I CAN Accept Myself.

After devastation hit Monday night, I felt rejected. I questioned why and it hit me today… I need to accept myself first. Strength comes from knowledge of self and I believe that means acceptance of self.


Acceptance, such a simple word. It is comprised of the root ‘accept’ and the suffix ‘ance’ which denotes a quality or state or an instance of, in this case, accept. So, acceptance. We all desire this, even those of us who do everything in our power to be different, we want, need people to accept us as we are. We may be different, normal, stupid, smart, slutty. funny, fat, skinny, average, muscular, straight, gay, bisexual, or just plain undecided on all fronts.

Monday I got word from a potential employer that they were not going to pursue my application further. This came on the back on about four other rejection emails earlier in the day. I was crushed. I really wanted this position. It was everything I have seen myself doing, where I wanted to live, what I wanted to do, and I saw it opening doors into a future career after my Masters, if I pursued that route. And then they said no, I felt defeated, deflated and dejected. Now, I understand my job hunting woes are not singular to myself, many people are struggling finding a career, but I have always had such success. I have never been out of a job long. I got an interview and then I would get the job. In short, I felt I have always been accepted.

I received the email on my way to a Yankees/Angels game Monday night. I sat there, in the back seat of the car and felt my heart shatter. Now, the employer didn’t know that their email would have that affect, they didn’t know how invested I had been in my research, my planning, and my desire to make it work. I didn’t tell them and they didn’t ask. because those things aren’t ever communicated in the interview process. So, there I sat. I read the email and my heart broke. Tears welled up in my eyes and my shaking hands dropped my phone into my lap, I was devastated. I sat through that care ride wondering, “why?” Why didn’t they accept me?

There is that word again, accept. And when I wasn’t accepted by this employer I really wanted to have accept me, I began to reject myself. I began questioning myself. Was the issue me? Was I really not a “good fit” for the position, or did I simply lack the skill? Maybe I was just not the right look or personality or have the right motives, or the right ideas, reading the right books… gawsh the list could go on! I was questioning everything.

But then something happened. It wasn’t conscious, but the tears stopped and I shrugged my shoulders. I realized something, finally, that if I couldn’t accept myself, how could I expect someone else to accept me? If I keep talking the talk and not walking that same talk, how could I expect to get anywhere? Always being able to pick up a job led me to believe that I was being accepted, but I haven’t truly been accepted. I have played parts, in retail, in school, in sports. I was playing a role. Now, the struggle comes from the ability to pick the way the next several years of my life will go. Now, I get to pick a full-time job, something that requires skills, or maybe something that allows me to move where I want to be… I don’t know. Fear constantly looms on the horizon as I wonder whether I will be accepted by others. But maybe, maybe I don’t need to have everyone accept me. My acceptantance is enough.

Acceptance, insistence of accept, to be accepted. This blog is me accepting myself. And I have only just now realized that. I am honest here. I talk about things I actually want to talk about. It is great to have readers, and I hope what I have to say somehow touches you and helps you, but this is for me. I am accepting myself. Because I don’t need an employer to choose me to know that I am worth choosing. Because I am friggin’ awesome and really, it’s their loss. Not mine. And I can accept that.


Day 5 of “The Struggle”

Well, it’s been a struggle! This week was way more jam packed than I had anticipated. But I did do it. I survived a week of gym everyday. This, following up last week where I went 6 days in a row as well. I can honestly say that today, despite having a really sore muscle in my right shoulder, I actually was looking forward to my gym time. 

Lori Harder says that it is dependent of you what you get out of eat sesssion. She is absolutely correct. So, when I go to the gym I people watch. It’s really an unconscious thing for me. And I compare my workout to there’s. Which is really the wrong way to go about it. Your mediocre might be someone else’s top level. We all start somewhere, after all. 

Anyways, I am proud to say I started the week at 222 and I weighed in at 219 today. I don’t think that is a steady rate and I’m sure there is some wiggle room there because I certainly didn’t try and loose 3 pounds. That may not be a safe weight loss rate. But, regardless, that’s what the scale states! The best part though is the way I feel and the parts of me that are firming up.

My workout routine consists of cardio and weights. I have done at least 10 minutes of cardio every day I go to the gym. And I do weightlifting, focusing on different parts of my body each time. However, I do squats consistently. What I don’t do very much of is core work. That is something that I will be working on this coming week and researching so I can learn what to do.

My cardio is stationary bike, elliptical, treadmill, swimming, walking or any combination there of. The thing I have really started to like to do is the elliptical front words and backwards. Obviously I’m not a personal trainer so I can’t say for sure, but I have noticed that the elliptical backwards really makes my butt sore. So, I am guessing that this firmer and higher backside that has shown up this week may have something to do with that.

As for my diet, well, less food for sure! I have been trying a few different things, including eating earlier. Mostly because I’m the kind of person will eat dinner at 9:00 P I have been trying a few different things, including eating earlier. Mostly because I’m the kind of person will eat dinner at 9pm. But I know that’s not good for digestion and what not, so I have been trying to eat earlier. The problem I run into is that I’m often up late and I get hungry at about 11 o’clock. So then I’m looking for a snack. But I have taken to eating an apple with some peanut butter or drinking a naked juice or making like four small chocolate covered strawberries.

My caloric intake has kind of been all over the place. I downloaded the my fitness pal app and I punched in all my statistics and it gave me my daily allowance of calories. It says in order to lose the weight I want to lose I should be consuming about 1770 cal. Obviously I’m trying to intake less than that but, if my fruit and my vegetables are what are pushing me over, I am not stressing it too much. Honestly, we know what we should be eating obviously I’m trying to intake less than that but, if my fruit and my vegetables are what are pushing me over, I am not stressing it too much. Honestly, we know what we should be eating, we know what’s good for us, and we know how much we should be eating. Eating until my stomach wants to explode is definitely not healthy even if it’s carrots that are making me that full. 

The biggest thing I have learned through this last week, is that I need to trust myself. I need to focus on myself, nobody else. I am the only person who is as important as my health. Because without my health, I cannot be here to help anybody else. So, my advice to you, you can do it! And I’m going to do it for another week and see where it gets me.

Day 1 of “The Struggle”

This post is actually for yesterday, Monday. I’m so sorry I didn’t get a post up. I was actually is major pain yesterday. I had worked out rather vigorously for 6 days in a row, (Tuesday-Sunday). And then I had my monthly massage on Sunday night. Needless to say, the nerve I pinched last Thursday was the least of the issues with my back. Medium pressure equaled so much pain I cried. I had numerous knots in my lower back and along my spine in the mid back. While the therapist did a great job, I had a knot the size of a baseball yesterday on the left side of my spine. I slept about 4 hours Sunday night because of the pain and I had a hard time moving around yesterday. So I spent most of the day reading.

So, we are starting today for real! I feel much better, the pain is manageable and I can move around pretty well. Swelling is gone and I slept phenomenally.

So far today, I have done chores and ran a couple errands. I am eating my first meal right now and thinking about dinner. I will be going to the gym this afternoon/evening. And I will post a re-cap tonight! 

Also, I will be doing my measurements today because yesterday I was a big ball of bad juju. 😊

Oh, The Struggle!

Well, I don’t know about you, but I certainly struggle with fitness. I am the type of person who gains weight from carrots (yeah, I know). So, if I don’t keep active and watch my food intake, I pack the pounds on like crazy. Which, has been exactly what has happened in the last couple months.

Now, I have done the up and down weight/gym dedication thing. For a semester at university, I was able to go to the gym about twice a day for 3/4 days a week and once a day for the rest. I was also avoiding carbs (in form of bread, pasta and rice). My problem is, I absolutely love bread and pasta and rice. They are my favorite things so it made it difficult for me to stick to it without cravings. Since then, I have learned about Nekter Juice Bar and their Acai Banana Berry bowls and done some internet research on caloric intake, macros, workouts and understanding my health.

Let me pause here for a minute to say: my health is based on a feeling. When I was in high school, I was very active and I felt great (especially during swim season).  However, I was eating terribly, a habit I have continued since high school. I have to imagine that if I eat well and I continue to work out, I will feel even better than I did in high school and that is the feeling I am going for.

Obviously from the photos above my weight gain has been substantial. The interesting thing is that the way I look now, (or in May), is how I felt I looked in high school. I always saw myself as overweight. I thought I was very large. Now, I actually am heavier and on my way to being large if I don’t do something about it. Hence, this blog post and my determination to get myself back into shape and feeling better than I felt then.

For the next week I will be going to the gym/being active everyday. I will take my measurements tomorrow morning and I will be chronicling the process. Today I prepared some raspberries, strawberries and bananas for smoothies. The bananas and strawberries I cut up and put them in a bag and into the freezer. The raspberries I am freezing as well. That way I can cut out the amount of ice I need to include. I have soy milk, spinach, peanut butter, and I purchased a probiotic juice by Tropicana at the store. I also have Noosa yogurts in raspberry and blueberry flavors in my fridge. I also have peanut protein powder, but I don’t really intend to use it.

Protein powder is something I have been curious about and wondered if I should add it to my routine. However, I read this excellent article on Medium, (click here), by Theo Brenner-Roach. He is a personal trainer and a blogger on fitness and health. He is very knowledgable and he really surmised the protein powder research I had done. Ultimately, I don’t do any lifting strenuous enough to warrant protein powder because I am getting plenty from my food. I eat meat and other animal products as well, so I don’t need protein supplements to make up for that.

So, using Theo’s information, I am going to aim for 1300-1500 calories a day, 210g of protein, 30% of my calories from fat and the carbs are the calories. Because of my weight, I could actually consume more calories, but I want to cut down on my carb intake, so I cut my total calories down.

I am happy to say I am on track today. I am sitting at 1340 calories and I have already had dinner. I may have some yogurt or something later if necessary, but I have room if I do. And the best part is I don’t feel like I missed anything. Starting tomorrow I will be sharing my meals so I can remain accountable and if you are wondering what I am eating, you can know.

Follow me this week as I take this journey!


Emotional Intelligence

Travis Bradbury, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 discusses the importance of EQ and how to improve upon it. Studies show that those with higher EQ’s are more successful than those who score lower.

Emotional Intelligence is something I have heard about and knew enough about to seek out a test to see how I stacked up. I did this a little while ago simply because I like tests and I like to know what my “number” is in relation to others. Call it a method of self-measurement. Luckily, I score high in both IQ and EQ, so knowing my numbers means I get to stick a metaphorical feather in my cap and feel good about myself. I know, sounds terrible, but don’t lie, you do it too.

Anyways, at the TEDxUCIrvine conference I went to this past weekend, a gentleman I follow on LinkedIn was one of the speakers. Travis Bradbury quoted Luc de Clapiers, Marquis de Vauvenargues in the beginning of his talk, “Emotions have taught mankind to reason.” He used this quote to frame his talk, so let’s analyze it.


Emotions, well, we all know what those are. Our feelings, but are they filtered by reason? Emotions are in the base of the brain. They travel from the base of the brain and move up through the limbic system. Basically, (I am not an expert here, just relaying info as I heard it), emotions hit our brain unfettered by reason or experience. Our brain gets the raw emotion, that is then transferred to the front of our brain where reason clouds the raw emotion and creates a filtered and hopefully, appropriate response to the stimulus that caused the emotion. And all of this is subconscious.We do not play an active role in this.

Next let’s look at the word taught, simple past tense in this form. It means to impart knowledge or skill. Interesting when linked with the word emotion which definitely seems to be out of our control if our brain is processing and filtering our emotions subconsciously.

Next we have reason. Reasoning is thinking about something with the experience and knowledge to lead us to make assumptions and determinations. Again, interesting how something so far outside of our conscious control can teach us to reason. It would me more apt to say that reason is taught through the accumulation of knowledge and critical thinking.

After looking at the keywords in the quote, the meaning behind it becomes complicated. This ability to reason stems from the experiences we have throughout our lives nd the knowledge we accumulate. We can therefore benefit from emotions because they exercise our brain’s ability to apply the knowledgeand experience in order to filter the emotion adequately so our response is acceptable by societal standards. But how does this develop? And how does this relate to EQ scores?

Bradbury talked about how our EQ can be improved by managing aspects of our life such as stress, sleep hygiene, and our caffeine intake. Sleep is the most important factor, as we know, because it gives our body and brain time to reenergize and clean all the gunk out that builds up throughout the day. The more tired we are, the less likely we are to filter our emotions fully and we tend to have emotional outbursts. But there is also stress levels that affect us. Again, when we are at our wits end with stress, we tend to have emotional outbursts.


So it makes sense that EQ is our response to emotional stimulus from people and our surroundings. The most intelligent person in the world may not be able to accurately read the emotion of their coworkers and might therefore, seem out of touch with people’s emotions and ostracize themselves. If we can understand other people’s emotions, we become more caring and compassionate human beings and are often moved to positions of leadership because we can manage people. All of this requires an openness to others and a desire to understand our fellow humans. Without this, we cannot hope to be able to understand and relate to others.

Read more about Emotional Intelligence by picking up on of Travis Bradbury’s books. More information can be found on his LinkedIn.